justina forever

putting one foot in front of the other since i could walk

  • What Justina Can’t Live Without

    as told to Jessica

    The other day, Jessica sent me this listicle:”What Sally Jessy Raphael Can’t Live Without.” Normally I hate when she sends me listicles (unless they’re from ClickHole), but this one is truly funny. We were shocked to learn that SJR turned 90 this year. Then we had a lot of fun thinking about all the stuff in our lives.

    Bormioli Rocco Quattro Stagioni Jar, 1 Litre

    I drink water out of giant mason jars. I might be overhydrated. Maybe if I were a plant, I’d be dying from root rot. I like these jars because they don’t tip over easily.

    Sharpie Permanent Marker, Fine Point, Black

    Got a weird scuff mark on a black shoe? You can fix anything with a Sharpie! A Sharpie also dials up the aggression when you write a passive-aggressive note to the guy who hung his sweaty bike clothes next to the water fountain. Hi! We don’t want to smell the sweat from your nether regions while filling our water bottles. 🙂

    Decathlon Urban Bike Pannier Bag 900 25L, V3 – Grey

    Riding a bicycle with nothing on your back is the best! I use a cheap pannier from Decathlon to lug my backpack to the office. Bonus: Decathlon has a 365-day exchange policy, so if a plastic hook snaps because a car brushed a little too close, they’ll replace it for free.

    Index Cards, 3″ x 5″, Blank

    There is something very satisfying about holding a 3″ x 5″ index card in your hand. I write down stray thoughts, stash them in a drawer, and either string them into stories or put them in the recycling bin. Even more fun: draw on one side, “laminate” with packing tape, and you have charming janky postcards to snail mail to your favorite people around the world.

    Cardboard, Found, Used

    At the other end of the pulp spectrum: cardboard. An upside-down box draped with a shawl was my entryway table for years. I made a cardboard taxi for my nephews and built a cardboard cubicle around my office desk to block unwelcome distractions.

    Bandaids (But Generic)

    I stick a bandaid on my umbrella handle so I can spot it in an umbrella stand. It looks gross, which means no one will steal it.

    Purple Cabbage, Not Organic

    I eat purple cabbage most days of the week. Once I figured out that the pH of the water in the office was way too high because it kept turning blue when it came in contact with my cabbage remnants. Crucifers can teach us a lot about chemistry!

    Dr. Bronner’s Baby Unscented Pure Castile Soap

    I once had a job putting contact lenses into people’s eyes on the set of a SyFy TV series. The actors were painted head-to-toe as aliens, so they couldn’t touch their own eyes without ruining their makeup. I think I touched 100 eyeballs that year. I washed my hands constantly, and this soap was the only soap that didn’t crack my skin.


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  • manifesto

    Alarm. Snooze? No. Get the fuck up! Index card on bathroom mirror: DRIVE CAPACITY DISCIPLINE. Aggressive? Don’t second-guess yourself. Shoes on, out the door. Time to run! Darkness. Serenity Prayer a song in your head to the rhythm of your gait. God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Repeat prayer until anxious thoughts quit unwinding in your head. Crickets, chickens coocoo-croocroo in the trees, the frantic glissando of a straw-headed bulbul, a bird with a low voice like bubbles on water. Bats swoop near your head, squirrel skipping across the road, pair of dachshunds, golden retriever with thick white eyebrows. Good morning to the regulars: man with glass water bottle in right hand, teenaged boy in school uniform eating sandwich, two women gossiping before workday, couple matching strides in silence. Street lamps snap off at 7:16. Two days ago it was 7:17. Trees growing on trees. Brown leaves fluttering to the ground. Clouds like cotton candy. I think life is nice.

  • This post is a little late, but I am happy to declare on my blog that my story, “The Boyfriend-Sweater Curse,” appears in Sharp Notions: Essays from the Stitching Life, alongside writing from twenty-seven writers in Canada, the US, and beyond.

    How cool it is to hold my story in my hands, but cooler still has been reading all the other stories in the anthology, about family, culture, heritage, migration, the environment, illness, identity, loss, healing, stillness, community, resistance, and the role making stuff plays in our lives.

    The other day I received a delightful message from a friend’s mum in Toronto. She had opened a copy of this book and chanced upon my story as she rode the streetcar wearing a pair of mittens I made her a decade ago. What are the odds? That put a huge smile on my face!

    In truth I have picked up neither needle nor pen for quite some time, but this anthology reminded me why I knit and write to begin with: it’s my way of making sense of the world, of filling it with richness, color, and meaning and feeling connected to other people.

    Thank you to Marita Dachsel and Nancy Lee for including me in this special project, taking such good care of my story, and helping me to become a better writer, and to Catharine Chen, Brian Lee, and the folks at Arsenal Pulp for putting out such a cool book.

    With that, dear reader, I leave you with some photos of the ill-fated boyfriend-sweater-curse sweaters from 2010-2014.

    “Boyfriend sweater” #1: Enormous pockets for hoarding those tiny hard candies you get when you leave a restaurant after dinner
    “Boyfriend sweater” #1: Elbow patches
    “Boyfriend sweater” #2: Knit using a “recipe” from Elizabeth Zimmerman’s Knitting Without Tears (some tears were indeed shed because the saddle shoulder made no sense to me, but I trusted the process and it worked out like magic)
    “Boyfriend sweater” #3: Wow, I must have been VERY in love to put up with such a tedious stitch pattern…
    “Boyfriend sweater” #3: Even the elbow patches were tedious to make

  • Across the street from my neighborhood compound sits a small grocery shop. I had hoped in my heart of hearts to make it mine. It had everything I needed: fruit, vegetables, tofu, even some meat. The summer peaches were plump and juicy, the grapes bright green and turgid. Best of all, it’s so close to my home. But my dreams were dashed by the mewing of a tiny kitten scampering, unseen, somewhere among the crates of potatoes and corn. I followed her mews all the way to a cardboard litter box tucked away in the back corner of the shop next to the onions. There I found her hopping between the onions and kitty litter with not a care in the world. A cute sight to see, sure, but soon the question of hygiene eclipsed all else. Never mind that onions are encased in protective skins and that kittens are cute; suddenly the shop seemed a little darker, mustier, and dirtier than I liked. I stopped patronizing the shop that day.

    The other day the kitten sat at the entrance guarding a crate of tomatoes. She’s twice as big now because she’s a teenager. When I stooped down to tease the cat, the shopkeeper said, “Long time no see! You haven’t shopped here in a long time.” (Four months and three days, to be exact.) Rather than explaining my thoughts on the onions and kitty litter, I gushed on and on about wow, how big the cat is, wow, how cute she’s become! I felt a pang of guilt. It’s true: the less we know the better. I sometimes wish I’d never discovered Littergate.

    I didn’t want to tell the Madame Littergate that I have a new market to call mine now, up the block and around the corner. This market is brightly lit, not musty at all, and covers all the major food groups: seafood, meat, eggs, fruit, vegetables, mushrooms, and pickled things. Plus, there is a diary shop next door. Here you can buy different varieties of peaches and grapes, the peaches pale as a fresh pair of sneakers or yellow as a meadow of sunflowers, the grapes fat like water balloons. Here you can find all kinds of mushrooms – white buttons, oysters, enoki (aka 明天见, so called because they pass through your system intact, so you can see them the next day in the toilet), shiitake, cremini, portabello, and other varieties I don’t know the names of.

    The only downside here is the vegetable man smokes like a chimney, lets the ashes fly while he arranges the potatoes in neat rows or stuffs 5 kilograms worth of eggplants into a giant bag in the middle of the night (perhaps for a restaurant that produces baba ghanoush, is my guess). The first time I went into the shop, he told me he couldn’t take his eyes off me (hopefully not in a creepy way). “Your hair is so short, but it really suits you!”. Now whenever I go into the shop, he says, “Ha? Your hair STILL hasn’t grown out yet?” Maybe one day I’ll go in with a wig.

    Once, the vegetable man asked me why I always buy the cheapest variety of mandarin oranges. It’s because I like my fruit to be mildly tart. How can anyone resist the crispy tang of a Granny Smith apple? When I’m feeling extra fancy, I treat myself to a Granny Smith apple (or something that looks close to it) from the international imports supermarket. Only when I’m feeling extra fancy.

    I struggled to come up with something interesting to write about today, but writing this post made a bunch of other topics pop up in the back of my head. Note to self on other things I can write about: retired aunties, going to the park, the security guards, things my Chinese teacher tells us that aren’t in the textbook.

  • Every day after class, I head to the school cafeteria to get something quick to eat before I go home to work. There are several canteens strewn across campus, with types of food from all over China (this week they even have hairy crab), but today’s post isn’t about food. It’s about cafeteria traffic.

    Here’s how it works. On one side of the cafeteria is the area where you get your food; the other side, tables and chairs. All over the walls, posters ask students not to save seats with their backpacks, but we all have banner blindness now, so the tables and chairs are occupied not by human bums but by backpacks and other personal objects like keys, pens, and even a solitary piece of Kleenex. You and your friends plop your stuff down on the table you like and then go to the food area. Since I have no friends here, I never save a seat for myself.

    The food area is basically a bunch of stalls with windows. There are all sorts of stalls.At some windows, trays of prepared food wait to be doled out. You tell the cafeteria worker which food you want, they ladle it out onto a tray, and they weigh your tray and charge you through a student card or QR code. You can order noodles made the way you like. You can order Japanese curry. At the hotpot-type stalls, you grab tongs and fill a bowl with whatever meats and vegetables you want, and then the cooks cook it up for you. Prices are maybe half what you might pay off campus. Sometimes you have to wait ten minutes while your food is prepared before they call your number. You pay for your food at the stall from which you order it.

    I think the chaos of the cafeteria is exacerbated by this seat-saving phenomenon, which leaves people who haven’t saved seats hopelessly clutching their trays with soup sloshing over the lip of the bowl searching for a place to sit while all the tables are covered in bags and pens and keys and a single Kleenex and other random belongings.

    It made me think back to when I was an undergrad, and how the flow of traffic was so different in that cafeteria. The area where you could get food was separated from the eating area by workers at cash registers. You would enter the cafeteria through the “get food” area, pay for your food, then proceed to the seating area. Nobody really saved seats, I think because of the flow of traffic.

    Come to think of it, though, the likelihood of someone stealing your backpack was not low, so there’s also that.

    It also made me think of how it’s very common to see people eating alone here, one hand shoveling food into their mouth, the other operating a mobile phone while they watch videos. This happens everywhere, not just in the cafeteria. But when I was an undergrad, I remember some of my friends thought I was super weird for eating alone sometimes. Another thing that strikes me is that men and women don’t really seem to mix on campus here.